
I used pink lady bird T-shirt material and the softest pink satin!




I also made myself two pairs of shorts and a pair of long pants. The long pants I made the previous weekend.


Since Monday I could see there was lack of commitment and self-control in the older children – Heidi-Mari, Josua and Danika. As always I took these attitudes to the Lord and asked Him to please show me what I am doing wrong. In His faithfulness the Lord answered my prayers and I sensed that we need to get back to basics.
And this is what we did:
I just love to use “Clever” to teach first language - Afrikaans.
To give you some back ground: my mother was a preschool teacher in the good old days, before the educational department of South Africa started experimenting with various curriculums. When we announced in 1999 we were going to home school CJ, she immediately dumped boxes of learning material on me! At that stage Martie du Plessis advised us to do unit studies and NO formal curriculum. I dived into the boxes of material my mom gave me and found worksheets for Grade 1 Afrikaans.
My mom also advised me to teach reading on the syllable method and not the whole word or sight word method. The Grade 1 Afrikaans worksheets were from Clever and taught reading and spelling by sounds / syllables. Over the years I could not find a better Afrikaans spelling curriculum and used it with every child as the basic for reading and writing.
On Wednesday morning, I pulled out Danika and Josua’s Clever worksheets.
I introduced Danika to the letter ‘b’. I slowly pronounced words beginning with the letter b, showing her the pictures in the worksheets, to help her get the rhythm of b as in bed, b as in ball, etc. (we obviously did this in Afrikaans) After a few words, I all of a sudden saw the “a-ha” in her eyes! That moment is always so special, seeing the understanding in her eyes.
Heidi-Mari and Josua made us a light box to germinate our heirloom seeds. The light box was also part of their science activities in Exploring Creation with Botany.
We sowed our seeds in seedling trays on the 24th of September. We sowed beans, carrots, tomatoes and lettuce. We got our heirloom seeds from the Gravel Garden in Somerset.
Within two days the lettuce appeared above the ground. We could hardly control our excitement.
On the 27th of September we sowed some herbs (chives, chilies, peppadews and basil) to plant between our vegetables for pest control and on the 3rd of October some more beans and tomatoes.
For our already existing garden of lettuce and tomatoes, we bought yarrow, basil and parsley plants at the slow food market in Stellenbosch. Yarrow and basil are especially good companion plants for lettuce and tomatoes. Christo bought me a book from Margaret Roberts on Companion Planting.
You may remember that we planted two strawberry plants on Equinox day the 22nd of September. Here are the first strawberries starting to ripen. Never before have we seen such shiny, red strawberries. Luckily they are in hanging baskets, or we would never have seen them ripen – small hands would pick it at the first hint of red.
The whole week I was waiting to pick my first rose. This morning, after the rain I went out to have a look and I could pick the most perfect rose!
CJ finished his round in 1.19 min. The very next rider finished hers in 1.15 min. Right after her was a 1.13 min. (The previous rider’s daughter!) And that was the course - one after the other there was a new leader. The winner ended with a time of 1.04 min and CJ shared the 5th place with another rider.
The 80cm Show Jump was the final competition and the highlight of the event. It was a two leg competition, some prize money was involved and we knew CJ had actually put his hopes in winning this round. The same riders, of the previous round, competed in this round and I was just praying for the safety of my son (in the previous round he did some hair raising tricks to get Silverball over the jumps fast enough) and that he would enjoy it.
Here you could see, getting the horse over the jumps itself, was the challenge. Very few riders completed this class with a clear round and a lot of riders fell off their horses in an attempt to try every thing in their power to get their horses over the jumps. Nobody was injured seriously though! One of the challenges of Cape Hunt’s events is the grass surface. The surface at Stellenbosch - were CJ competed with great success in the past - was sand. On a grass surface the horse very often ‘glide’ through the jump, due to the speed with which the jump is approached. It takes a lot of skill to give the horse the right speed, angle and footage to be able to clear a jump. Then the horse has to be kept steady to get over the 80 cm high jump. The rider needs to know his horse very well and has to be in total control of his horse. All this, while the crowd wave and cheer from the side.
When it was CJ and Silverball’s turn I could just pray, I reminded myself to breathe in and breathe out and trusted the Lord with every breath I took. A few times you could see the hesitation in Silverball to get over a jump, but CJ was in total control and just knew how to get him over the jump. Great (and loud) was the joy of all the Camelot supporters when CJ finished with a clear round.
This meant he needed to do the second leg, the jump-off at 90 cm, in the shortest time without knocking off a pole. Eish! Wasn’t the stress for the day more than enough, now to go through another round?! To our surprise there were only three riders that finished with clear rounds! For me that was enough, he didn’t need to do the jump-off. He would at least be third, and that was more than what I hoped for. But who am I to say anything – CJ has a very competitive spirit.
He competed second, but I was so bound up in the jumps, that I didn’t register the first rider or CJ’s time, I was just thankful that he went through the jumps in a clear and safe round! I didn’t know what to expect and almost lost my balance when the third rider finished his round and I saw everyone started to congratulate Christo, who was taking photos a few meters away from me. Did CJ win the final round…? Next they announced CJ as the winner! Wow! All his supporters (me being the biggest) were overjoyed with excitement! This was the first time CJ had clear rounds at Cape Hunt and on top of it, won the most important class of the day. I’ve never before seen my son so overjoyed!And while I’m writing this, I’m filled with thankfulness towards the Lord. Thankfulness that my son is discovering and starting to live his dream, his passion, his calling in life, at such a young age! He already went through some tough challenges with his dream of horse riding. Read more about it here and here.
A few years ago, Bruce Wilkinson, our mentor in discipleship, wrote a book, The Dream Giver. The bottom line of the book is that God has a calling on your life – a dream for you - and you must do everything to fulfill that calling, to live you dream, your passion. In his book he compares following your God-given Destiny with a journey. A journey with some tough challenges, a journey through waste lands and valleys of giants, but if you endure this journey, you will reach your dream and thrive. Until you decide to pursue your Dream, you are never going to live your life the way you were meant to.
Yet, millions of people never take the first step towards their dream. People are so caught up in the demands of life. In my opinion the biggest lie is people believing they cannot integrate their job with their calling or dream. People believe they must work and earn money to make a living and put their dream on hold for later. That is not what God intended for us. He wants us to integrate our job with our passion. It is so much easier to endure the hardships in your job if it is your passion, your God given dream. That is why God put us on earth in the first place!
And it is possible. Christo is now living his calling, his dream, and his passion for 10 years. God put the dream in Christo to educate and heal people through healthy eating patterns and natural medicine. God receives the glory since people are taking better care of their bodies, the only body He gave them to serve Him with. Since it is Christo’s passion he can endure through hardships. God put this calling on his live and therefore he can also provide for his family. For when you are in your calling, you are in God’s will and then God bless you and you will be fulfilled.
I’m also living my calling. My passion is teaching. Where can I make a bigger difference in the world, than teach my own children – the next generation? Compare with my passion of teaching, the nurturing, mother heart of God, which is present in every women and I can endure the hardships of home schooling and training my many blessings. (What is your passion? How can you use your passion, alongside the nurturing, mother heart of God, to raise Godly children?)
There is only one thing we want our children to understand before they leave their nest – They must know God’s calling on their lives, their passion and dream and pursue it. In doing so they will find fulfillment in life and do great and mighty things to the Glory of the Lord!
For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.
Eph 2:10
CJ was beside Josua all the way. He helped him to mount his horse - Helmut and he walked Helmut before the show, so he wouldn’t be too ‘fresh’ on the course and start to run.
Poor CJ was exhausted, running next to Helmut and went over all eight jumps (twice) with Josua and Helmut! That’s besides the other two times he led inexperienced or first jumpers! Thank you CJ!
Great was the joy, when they had clear rounds in both jumps and he got his first two rosettes for clear rounds!
He also received a 4th place-rosette in the Fancy-dress competition for being dressed like Zorro. Helmut didn’t mind Josua wearing the black cloak (something Josua feared may upset Helmut). By the way, it was Helmut’s first show ever…
What a joyful day for my son! He has so much confidence now; he is already planning his next jumping show!
Needless to say, little Danika is literally dancing in her sister’s footsteps. Colleen only takes little girls after they turn 4years, but Danika started her ballet classes 3 months before her 4th birthday. You see, Danika grew up in front of Colleen. At the end of every quarter, Colleen invites the parents to watch the progress of the ballerinas and every time our whole family goes to watch Heidi-Mari. Danika was six weeks old when she attended the first parent’s open day. Thus Colleen knew little Danika, and I think Colleen too, couldn’t wait to see Danika start ballet. Three months before her 4th birthday, we dressed her in a ballet dress and after one of Heidi-Mari’s classes she walked up to Colleen and asked her if she could please start ballet classes. You could literally see how Colleen’s face softened and her heart crumbled with the sincere request from the little girl. Without hesitation she said yes and Danika started her ballet classes the next week.
During last week’s parents' open day, I was amazed to see the level at which these little girls perform their ballet.
Three weeks ago, the Durbanville Primary School asked Colleen if one or two of her ballet classes would perform an item in their annual concert. Heidi-Mari’s class was one of the classes that Colleen chose. I love to make ballet costumes and this costume was very easy.
The week of the concert was typical Cape Winter weather, with rain and a stormy, ice cold wind. We wouldn’t be able to attend the concert (under normal circumstances, it is already a challenge to attend a concert with little ones) even if we wanted to.
But we did manage to see the concert dance, when Colleen let the girls perform the item at the parents' open day.
Colleen Williams is one of the rare women I want to have an influence on my daughters. She is steady, strong in character and has a unique, positive influence on the girls.
She has a way of introducing ballet to little girls that makes them just fall in love with ballet.
In every ballet class the girls enter a fantasy world, being a little princess or a tin soldier, a jack in the box or a straight colorful pencil, an animal or a flower. And through their imaginations, Colleen introduces the fine art of ballet, good posture and self discipline.
She has the gentlest way of talking to and teaching these little girls. Even when correcting them, they don’t even realize they are being corrected.
But I’m especially thankful for the beautiful, feminine example Colleen is to Heidi-Mari, who is entering the season of beautiful girlhood transforming into beautiful womanhood. Colleen is an example of a true lady, someone with strong character. She is always the same, a lady with integrity. She always reminds the girls, when something is worth doing, it is worth doing well. She expects punctuality for classes and values regular attendance of classes. It may sound strange to highlight these traits and you might think (as I do) it is kind of expected and obvious. But believe me, being around the girls and mothers in the ballet school, it is scary to notice, how the girls and their mothers, don’t value these character traits anymore. Mothers don’t model it to their daughters. The mothers don’t pay attention; they don’t want to sacrifice time and effort and always choose the easiest way out.
With our boys it is even more difficult to find people with upright character and integrity to influence them as real men of God. The world of children is dominated by feminism. The other day we heard how impressed a mother was that her boy of eight is now receiving rugby coaching from a lady. Where are the men?? We need real men to speak manhood into the lives of our boys! When our sons are exposed to the influence of women, 24 hours a day, we promote ungodly feminism in our sons! And we have to be aware of this from a very early age.
Between the age of 18 months and 3 years little boys need the company of male figures – their dads and brothers, if they have brothers - so they can start to associate themselves with men and know they are different from women. It is during this age that dad has to take on more responsibilities and spend more time with his sons. In our home it is normally at that age that a new baby arrives and dad just has to take over more care of the second youngest.
At the age of about 13 years, there is another distinct shift of authority over the young man. During that age, our sons need to see their mother as a woman who needs love and respect – the wife of his father. He needs to have respect for a woman so he can love, respect and take care of his own wife one day. It is easier for the young man to make this mind shift, when his dad takes over the authority over his son and his mother takes the position of Dad’s wife. We have experienced it numerous times with CJ (who is now 15years old). When I try to exercise authority or control over CJ (unfortunately it is more difficult for me to make the mind shift than for CJ) I can immediately see a change in his respect for me as a woman. When I stand back and let Christo handle times of discipline or dispute, my son keeps his soft attitude towards me and I assist in the culturing of the right attitude towards his future wife. Thus I allow him to associate with the real man in his life.
Then we have to seek strong men, other than dad, who will have positions of authority, teaching and influence on our sons’ lives. In today’s (feminist dominated) world, especially in teaching positions, we need to make sure, our sons (of all ages) are exposed to real men. Men with integrity and strong character. No wimps! Men who have a solid conviction of what is right, men who are not afraid to make a decision and take responsibility for their decisions, men who don’t mind working hard and getting their hands get dirty, men who stand strong against temptations like lust, pornography and the love of money, men of courage, who will sacrifice for their loved ones.
Praise the Lord for such strong men in CJ and Josua’s lives, through the horse riding school. These men have a much bigger influence on my boys than they ever know and we are so thankful for their presence in their lives. The horse riding school is owned by a hard working vet with integrity and strong character. Then there is one special family who helps sponsor Silverball’s lease, who are always ready to take CJ along to events and who model generosity – a family who cares and whose decisions aren’t defined by what they can get out of something, before doing good.
Character and integrity aren't very high on the priority list in today’s culture and I think parents often don’t evaluate the character and integrity of the people that have an influence on their children’s lives. Maybe people lack these traits because they weren't modeled to them when they were younger and they have become a forgotten virtues. They belongs to the ancient past, when things were a lot slower. In today’s culture it is the survival of the fittest that counts. The one with the most toys wins!
Christo and I would rather let our children go without certain extramural activities and the skills they would learn, than expose them to people with weak character and low integrity. The same applies for the kind of friends our children are choosing. It may sound harsh and short sighted, but Christo and I always have to remind ourselves: God keeps us, parents, responsible for the bringing up of our children. We have to make sure we expose them to the right people.
“Do not be deceived: ‘Evil company corrupts good habits.’”
1 Co 15:33