18 March 2010

Breastfeeding Part II


I thought it was just too easy - the adapting to our eighth baby! He almost never cried, except for the first five days, before we knew his neck was misaligned.

After we took him to our family chiropractor for three treatments, he was so content and a very happy baby. He would feed every 2 hours and slept almost all the time.  When he was awake he would just follow me with his big eyes where ever I go. He would cry when he had a dirty nappy and after I’ve changed it he would fuzz until I gave him the breast and then fell asleep again! 
But then we hit Tuesday! It was like a bump in a smooth road and totally unexpected! He started by being fuzzy, then it turned into crying and he just didn’t want to sleep, except in my arms and then he would be very restless.  He wanted to be on my breast 24 hours a day and was clearly overfed and had reflux all the time!  That continued for Tuesday night and Wednesday too.  By Wednesday evening I was exhausted and discouraged!  What happened to my content baby?  Could it be the heatwave we experienced?
And then on Wednesday night he just fell asleep and only fed once. It was no surprise when I woke up on Thursday morning so refreshed. Half way through the day I realized, I got my sweet baby back!  It was only then that it struck me - Michael was crying due to an aching tummy because his mommy ate the wrong food during her birthday!  On Monday morning I had a baked cheese cake. Monday evening Christo took me out for dinner and I had creamed butternut soup, pasta with cream and apple crumble pudding.  Since he didn’t complain during Monday or Monday night, I thought it didn’t affect him, but it certainly did, only a few hours later.

I’m not new to colic babies.  I remember the hours CJ would cry when we went for family dinners during his first few weeks.  Heidi-Mari was even worse.  Not only would she cry 24 hours a day, due to an aching tummy, but her whole body was covered in eczema. At one stage the pus came out of her red body due to me having diary products over a festive season! It was during this time that this Dietitian (me) learned the hard way. It wasn’t only coffee and alcohol which entered breast milk (as I was taught), but everything we eat will be excreted into the breast milk and eventually affect baby.  They are so sensitive to ‘wrong food’.
With Josua we were much more alert on the food I ate, and over the past few years we learned more and more with every baby.  It was only after our sixth baby (David) that we really understood the diet for a breastfeeding mother.  I believe if we didn’t learn with every baby and avoided more and more of the wrong foods, all my babies would have been colic babies and I most probably wouldn’t have had eight children! 

A word of warning: Your pediatrician, clinic sister, dietitian (trust me on this!) and for that matter your mother in law, will tell you the food you eat has NO effect on your baby - except coffee, alcohol and maybe chocolates! I can show you living proof that certain foods, especially fast foods and microwaved food, DO affect your baby!
So what do I avoid during the first three months of a newborn baby?  There are so many foods to avoid, it is easier for me to tell you what I’m allowed to eat, but I will still try.
I avoid all wheat. Even ‘organic wheat’.  Organic wheat is still altered and now contains 21 genes in comparison to the original 7 genes of the God-made-wheat and thus the body doesn’t have the enzymes to digest it correctly. We bake our own bread from Spelt. 
The next big no-no is, diary products.  That includes milk, cream, cheese, cottage cheese, yoghurt, etc. butter is ok.
Food containing MSG make babies cry for hours!  That means there are no soup powders, aromat or tin food in my kitchen cupboards.  
Sugar is also a stumbling block on your way to an easy baby!  Sugar is a mind-altering-drug and will make your baby more irritable. Be especially careful of breakfast cereals. During the first six months of a new baby I also avoid honey in my food.  I’ve noticed it caused blocked noses and colic with some babies. 

How does one know if there are wheat, diary, MSG or sugar in food?  You start by reading the food labels!
The next thing we’ve noticed is the effect of pesticides and chemical treatment in fresh fruit and vegetables on Newborn babies.  We currently only eat organic fruit and vegetables. 


If you are in the Western Cape Peninsula you can look into the Ethical Co-op for organic fruit and vegetables.  Now you may ask, what if you don’t have access to organic fruit and vegetables or cannot afford it? We only have access to organic fruit for the past 4 months. 
Before this, I just avoided fruit during the first 3 to 6 months of my new baby and only ate certain vegetables.
For fruit, I’ll have an organic apple, pear or peach.  I avoid banana (as it causes constipation and mucus in babies) and citrus fruit.  I’m careful of prunes, watermelon, grapes, strawberries, pawpaw and mango.

For vegetables, I stay safe with butternut, sweet potato and squash.  From all other vegetables, especially the onion family, cabbage family, beans and peas I stay away.
For starch I only eat rice, potatoes and sweet potatoes. We make our own pasta with spelt flour (recipe below).
For protein I have eggs, lamb, mince (I make sure it is medium fat beef mince and contains nothing else than beef) and chicken.  NO pork, beacon or any sausage. We buy all our meat products (lamb, chicken, mince, 'boerewors' - sausage, fillet) from the Boesmanland and they are totally organic!
I also avoid any commercial mayonnaise, chutney, soya sauce, tomato puree, tomato paste or tomato sauce.

I also avoid any teas, especially rooibos tea!  Rooibos tea causes the intercellular cellular fluids to become very acidic, which caused me to take longer to recover from labour.  Typical symptoms from being acidic is an aching body.
I only have one or two organic, decaf cappuccino's, made with rice milk and a little brown sugar a week.
The golden rule is to prepare your food from scratch and throw out your microwave.  You can read about microwave cooking here.
We also follow the blood group diet of Dr. Peter D’Adamo  The blood group diet doesn’t only benefit your baby, it has the benefit of you getting back in shape in no time!  I’m an O-blood type and eat meat with breakfast, lunch and supper.  I eat butter and certainly don’t avoid fat.  But I do avoid sugar!  Contrary to what you may have been told or believe, it isn’t fat that make you fat, it is sugar and too much fruit!  Michael is one month old and I’m only 3 kg from what I weighed before I fell pregnant.  And that has been the case with every baby.
So what do I eat?

I eat as simple as possible, no fast foods, only food prepared from scratch in my kitchen.  This way I know exactly what is in every meal.
I bake our own bread with spelt flour, an ancient wheat imported from Europe.  It isn’t genetically modified and is grown organic.  I have a Panasonic bread machine, which makes baking bread no big deal.  
For salt I only use sea salt or Himalayan salt.
We love pasta and we make our own with spelt in the Kenwood Chef with the pasta accessories.
Whenever we need milk, we use rice milk powder.
Breakfast:
2 baked eggs and spelt bread.
or
scrambled eggs (seasoned only with rice milk and sea salt) and spelt bread.
or
an egg omelet (egg, salt and water) with left over mince from supper and spelt bread
and
Carrot juice (made by Heidi-Mari) in our Oscar Juicer.


I eat only St. Dalfourd’s apricot jam on my spelt toast.
I avoid any form of sausage and beacon with breakfast.

Lunch:
We always try to have left over food from the previous night’s supper for lunch.
Spelt bread with chicken fillets (Sortie free range chicken fillets in a little butter, then add some water and cook with sea salt and 1 -2 fresh, organic tomatoes and basil and thyme from my vegetable garden.)
or 
Spelt bread with thin slices left over leg of lamb (see recipe under supper).
or
Spelt bread with cooked egg.


Supper:
Always prepared from scratch!
Leg of lamb and rice cooked with sea salt. (Cover leg of lamb with fresh tomato puree, basil and thyme - from your own vegetable garden or organic if possible and sea salt. Pour some water in bottom of oven pan, cover with foil. Bake for 3 hours at 180 degree C. Take foil off and bake until brown and crispy)
or
Lamb ‘tjops’ on rice cooked with sea salt (Put lamb ‘tjops’ in oven pan, pour some water in bottom of oven pan, cover with foil and bake for 1 hour at 180 degree C.  Take foil off after 1 hour, season with sea salt and bake for another 30 min. or until brown and crispy)
or
Mince on spelt pasta, with white sauce. (Mince - sortie in little butter.  Add sea salt, fresh tomato puree, basil, thyme and rosemary and cook for about 20 minutes; Spelt pasta - enough for our family of 9 - 600g spelt flour, 4 beaten eggs, 5ml salt. Mix together for 1min on medium speed in Kenwood Mixer. Make pasta of choice with Kenwood accessories; ) 
White sauce made with 70g butter, 60g spelt, 10ml sea salt, 1l rice milk. 
or
Chicken fillet burger. (Sortie free range chicken fillets in a little butter, add some water and cook with sea salt and 1 -2 fresh tomatoes; Spelt buns - dough made in Panasonic bread machine on Pizza method, shape round buns, put in oven - not pre-heated at 180 degrees C until light brown.)

For vegetables:
Butternut cubes in oven pan with butter and salt, baked at 180 degree C until soft and tender.
or 
Squash cooked only in salt water, add butter cube after cooked.
or
Sweet potato baked in oven at 180 degree C.
and
Fresh carrot and pineapple salad (made by Josua with our Oscar juicer)
and
Fresh green salad (made by Heidi-Mari), lettuce, tomatoes and avocado - all organic, from our vegetable garden, except for avocado.
What supplements am I taking to ensure ENOUGH milk for my baby? 
(We all know a mother who was advised by a clinic nurse or Mother in Law to give her baby extra bottle feeding, due to her ‘weak’ milk or insufficient milk. 
I drink 3-4 liter of filter water (NOT reverse-osmosis water or Distilled water) a day with 2 Coral Calcium sachets and 25 drops of Concentrace (I’m prone to restless legs and Concentrace is total cure).

After breakfast I drink:
two Coral 8 capsules (for extra Calcium and Vitamin D);
two Omega SLO capsules (Strengthening your breast milk and building block of ALL the hormones and EVERY cell);
one Activ 8 capsules(Anti-oxidant);
two Mindsets (Gives me Brain Food for the day)
As you can see, there isn’t a great variety in my diet and it does get boring after a month, but coping with a fuzzy or colic baby, during the day, and even worse, at night, isn’t easy at all.  It all depends on how desperate you are to have a content baby! 
That is exactly why I got a fuzzy baby after my birthday.  I was so good in eating nothing wrong from Michael’s first day, that I didn’t give the possibility of Michael being allergic and even colic, one thought! He was just so content!  
So, when I got the opportunity of eating out on my birthday, I just ordered what I was used to when I didn’t have a newborn baby!  And I faced the consequences, not to mention the tummy ache my sweet baby had for almost two days!

Now I’m fanatical to eat right and avoid any possible food that can cause Michael dis-ease.  He is worth it, to sacrifice a large variety diet!

12 March 2010

Adorable!



The first few weeks I couldn’t stop holding Michael.
  
I would sit with him in my arms for most of the day and when I had to put him down and he started to cry, 
I would quickly delegate what I was busy to do and had my baby back in my arms. 

It simply does something to a mother’s heart when a tiny little human being is so dependable on you! 
I just flourish on it!


Someone comment last weekend: “By know you must be so used to holding babies, it shouldn’t be a thrill anymore!”  
Well, in my case it is quite the opposite.  
I cannot get enough of holding my sweet baby! 

I know how quickly they grow out of the newborn stage and then he isn’t the sweet smelling helpless baby anymore!


Well... he is growing and developing, being 6 weeks today! 


The last few days he started to communicate, giving us wide open smiles,


and moving his arms and legs, like he’s running a marathon! 

Now I cannot stop talking with him! 
As I am busy typing this posting, he is making all the sounds he can manage to get my attention, with great success! 

I can hardly type a word without telling him for the thousand’s time, how cute he is and how much I love him! 
It is so amazing to see how he is changing from the tiny, newborn baby

into an attentive baby, taking in his environment; trying to get our attention, by making movements and sounds! 

And the excitement when we react on his efforts! 

His alive, blue eyes will pull into thin lines as he gave you a wide open smile, while trying to get out some more sounds! 

He is simply adorable!


I’ve said it before, I say it again: “I’m addictive to babies!”

Thank you Lord for blessing me with babies!

09 March 2010

Welcome Michael Party and 'Me-Time"


When I was pregnant with Daniel, a special group of friends gave us a baby shower. Christo told me we were expecting a friend for the evening from Pretoria. As I opened the door, there were all my friends with a surprise party!  
Since I was convinced it was a girl and up to then, had never been wrong with any of my babies, they all blessed us with pink gifts!

Needles to say, there weren’t much blue clothes or blankets when little Daniel arrived. He was wrapped in a pink blanket the first hour of his life! 

So this time around we decided to rather have a ‘Welcome Baby Party” instead of a baby shower! 

One of the benefits of having a ‘baby shower’ after the birth is that everyone knows, baby is a boy or a girl, in terms of gifts,

and it makes it easier on the family to have one morning during which all my special friends can meet the new addition to our family.

So, on a beautiful Friday morning, in February, my special group of friends, blessed us with a ‘Welcome Michael Party’!  

We all met at Meerendal in the Durbanville wine lands and had cake, coffee 

and such a special time together.  

Every one got a turn of meeting and holding little Michael, 

while he was totally unaware of all the attention. 

The oohs and the aahs, while adoring this perfect, tiny, human being! 

It was such a blessing to me to enjoy this special morning in the company of my friends!  Thank you, my dear Friends!

That doesn’t happened very often.  Being devoted to my family and their needs doesn’t give me much time to hang out with friends, not even receiving friends at home. I am totally at peace with it! This is the season in my life during which I devote every minute of my day to be close to my children and train them up in the way they should go.   I believe the success of raising Godly children depends on my priorities and how willing I am to separate my children from the world. 
The past few weeks I heard so many mothers complaining about their lack of ‘Me-Time”.  Where does this ‘Me-Time’ monster come from?  Everywhere I turn, and most of the time I’m around Christian Woman, I heard them long for more ‘Me-Time’ and asking each other how to work in more ‘Me-Time”.  I’ve observed in all these mothers that there longing for more ‘Me-Time’ is there biggest obstacle in raising Godly children in whom they could have a delight to be around.
We need to let go of this “Me-Time-Monster” that robs mothers of the pleasures of a close, loving relationship with godly, well-behaved children!  The “Me-Time-Monster” gives you the illusion that having time AWAY from your children will help you cope with the demands of being WITH your children!  Wrong thinking!  Dear mother we need to renew our minds, turning away from worldly thinking. The more mothers are AWAY from their children, the more undisciplined and ‘lonely’ children become, resulting in more demanding children!
Training our children’s hearts to think like God thinks is only possible if we Mothers keep them right by us.  

We need to keep our younger and most untrained ones by our side constantly. The older and more trained ones at least in the same room until they are absolutely trustworthy elsewhere.   We need to love, nurture, encourage and educate our children constantly. We need to watch them 24 hours a day!  We need to renew our minds to WILLINGLY make parenting our top priority!  It is our FULL TIME JOB!

My second motivation for being a ‘stay-at-home-homeschooling-mother’ is to separate my children from wrong influences, at least until they are very mature in their training and faith (and this maturity doesn’t come as quickly as most parents expect). 
We read in Matthew 6:24, 
"No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will hold to one and despise the other..." (NAS)

By allowing our children to be exposed to questionable outside influences, we’re pushing our children into the arms of a second master.  By removing TV from our home and homeschooling our children, we effectively keep our children from wrong influences.  But there is another more enjoyable and simple thing we can do to produce godly, loving children.

We DO more things TOGETHER as a family and let our children do fewer things with ‘friends’ outside the family.  We keep our children WITH us, and reject the popular mindset that my children ‘need’ to socialize outside their home.  It is often at these socializing events that our children will learn values, other than ours and pick up attitudes that are anti-family and anti-authority.  This is where our children will lose their loyalty toward us and God and turn their loyalty toward the world.
We read in 2 Cor. 6:17-18
"Therefore, come out from their midst and be separate," says the Lord. "And do not touch what is unclean; and I will welcome you. And I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me," says the Lord Almighty.

Our children never ask for friends and socializing outings!  They are content in their home and with each other.  In the security of their own home, with a mother who are devoted 24 hours a day, training them 7 days a week, it is possible to raise Godly Children and enjoy parenthood.
Then the picture of cooing infants who loves to be rocked to sleep, 

cute toddlers who enjoy playing peacefully for hours with blocks and toy trains. Grade school children who are always eager to learn and never bicker, 


helpful teens who look forward to sharing confidences with Mom and Dad, and finally young adults who are mature and trustworthy and prepared to start families of their own, is not completely unrealistic! 
Do I long sometimes to be in adult, friendly company?  Do I miss my friends?  

For sure I do!  I love my friends and enjoy every minute spent with them.  But for now, my family is the priority and I need to sacrifice my needs, for them.  I do believe the sacrifice will bear MUCH FRUIT in the future!  And there will always be time to be with friends again when this season is over... but I will NOT have time again to train my children, when they are grown up!
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